Communication: Courtroom, lawyer, defendant, plaintfiff?

Some people communicate as if they were in a court of law and the person they are speaking with is their judge. They feel as if they need to explain themselves, defend themselves to this perceived “judge”. What they really need to understand is that they are not being tried in a court of law; however, if they find themselves needing to explain and defend, did they do something wrong?

If something wrong was done or if they are being blamed, it’s best to become the lawyer and not the defendant and turn that judge into a plaintiff instead. This becomes a more positive experience for both parties and the initially defendant person can become an equal in the communication process rather then give up their power to the “judge”.

As a lawyer you can question the plaintiff and find out if there’s any truth to what they have to say. You do this by “examining” or “discovering” rather than “defending” which ultimately is unproductive and subjugates.