ADD / ADHD Symptoms, Problems, and Resolutions

My husband has ADD. I have ADHD. His is unmanaged and mine is. I have strategies. He has strategies too but won’t use them.

Here’s what I have discovered:
1. The cause to error and delayed goals is too much curiosity and creativity. If an ADDer just focused on the task at hand rather than being curious about “what else there is” or “what could be” they would be more likely to be accurate and reach goals in a timely manner. Therefore the ADD brain is a “futuristic” brain in that it is always looking at “what’s next” but then getting overwhelmed by that since they know they have a hard time accomplishing things so instead of focusing on the task at hand, they may decide not to get much done at all therefore in some strange way “avoiding” what’s next. The remedy for this is planning; however, ADDers don’t like doing that. They tend to be freedom seeking people who like to live on the edge yet know the consequences of those actions are not very appealing at all and so goes a revolving cycle of hatred and self loathing of self and/or others.

2. An ADDer’s brain is quite rebellious. It’s as if there are two people in an ADDer’s head: One wants to do the right thing — to be displined and make the “right” choices and the other is a rebellious teenager wanting to do what he or she wants when she wants or else.

3. An ADDer has to choose strategies that work for their learning style and then they have to buy into those strategies. The best way of accomplishing that is to make an ADDer create their own strategies, ones that are fun, flexible, and enjoyable.

4. ADDers need a lot of professional support in addition to a loving partner or parent. Single or ignored ADDers are less likely to get help and are more likely to decline in mental health. Professional support includes Personal Organizers to get their home and office life in order, Life Coaches to keep their home and office life in balance, Financial Helpers to keep ADDers on track, making the most of what they got and out of legal trouble, and finally Cognitive Therapists to “retrain” the ADD brain to: 1. Discipline; 2. Strategize; 3. Structure; and 4. Socialize themselves successfully to their environment.

5. Many ADDers have similar physical mannerisms when they are having an “episode”. Yes, ADDers are not always 24/7 the way they are though some are. Anyway some ADDers yawn when they are bored; however, I have noticed the “exact” same type of yawn. Same goes with scratching and twitches. ADDers seem to move physically in the exact same way, similar to Down’s Syndrome people where their faces have similar features.